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Find Your Perfect Pair of Wedding Shoes

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Finding the perfect shoes for your wedding day is almost as crucial as the wedding dress! You have to pick a pair (or two) that will not only coordinate with your wedding gown but last you the whole day, too. We’ve put together some of our top picks for must-have wedding shoes – all available on Amazon

Finding The Perfect Wedding Shoes

  1. Pointed Toe Studded Pumps | 2. Badgley Mischka Cher Pump | 3. Badgley Mischka Salma Loafer  | 4. Badgley Mischka Jeweled Mayra Heel | 5. Corral Angela Western Boot | 6. Badgley Mischka Paxton Pump | 7. Badgley Mischka Octavia Flat | 8. Badgley Mischka Ginny Dress Pump | 9. Badgley Mischka Fran Heel | 10. Jessica Simpson Layra Boot | 11. Badgley Mischka Quintana Heel | 12. Loeffler Randall Camellia Heel

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Stilettos

You only have your wedding day once, so you may as well go all out! If you are all about fashion and don’t mind a bit of discomfort, these are for you. Strut your way through the day with a pair of stilettos that will make your legs look nice and lengthy. Plus some of our favorite designers have the most incredible wedding lines!

Flats or Shorter Heels

Flats and 1-2in heels make for the ultimate comfort level. If height isn’t a make or break deal for you, then these are your perfect wedding shoes. They’re classic, cute, and you’ll be able to move around all night long without having to worry about any discomfort!

Chunky Heel

The chunky heel is a perfect compromise for comfort, style and height. If you weren’t born and bred wearing 5-inch stilettos, this option is for you. Chunky heels are great because they are not only easier to walk in but are also (thankfully!) trendy right now. 

Boots

Boots are a staple for any Oklahoma bride! So why not rock your country style (with a bit of glam) on your wedding day? These pair really well with short or high-low dresses during the reception or are a fun surprise under a classic ball gown.

Featured Image // Andi Bravo Photography


See all of the shoes we love for your wedding day here!

Rehearsal Dinner 101: Everything You Need to Know to Have the Best Rehearsal Dinner

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Wedding planning isn’t all about the big day. The rehearsal dinner is an important — and enjoyable — part of the wedding celebration, so we’re walking you through all the basics. From who to invite to where to have it, we’re covering everything you need to know to have the best rehearsal dinner. 

This wedding tradition can be casual or formal, large-scale or intimate, etc. It all depends on the couple and their preferences. While there is no wrong way to do it, it’s helpful to know the general etiquette along with some pro-tips to get you started in the process of planning. 

(Let’s dive into the details!) 

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Photo // Boulevard Steakhouse

REHEARSAL DINNER 101

There are many wedding traditions, but none so pleasant and enjoyed by so many as the rehearsal dinner. The rehearsal dinner has been around for hundreds of years, back to when guests often had to travel for days or weeks to attend a wedding. Whether it was an elegant castle or the local public house, guests would be treated to the hospitality of a meal upon arrival with all the other parties involved. Over the years this has evolved into a sophisticated celebration with planned speeches and more, but ultimately it’s still about bringing people together.

The big day can often be a whirlwind for the couple, the wedding party, and the family, so this is a lovely opportunity for the inner circle to gather and have a quiet (or loud depending on how you celebrate) moment together. 

 

What is the Purpose of the Rehearsal Dinner?

The purpose of the rehearsal dinner is to show hospitality to the wedding party and out-of-town guests. This is a time for the two families to meet and enjoy each other’s company.

It is most commonly held the night before the wedding day after running through the wedding rehearsal. In some cases, couples opt to have the rehearsal dinner two days before the event in order for people to recover, but this isn’t always convenient if you have a significant amount of out-of-town guests. 

 

Does It Have to Be a Dinner?

Not at all. Rehearsal brunch, lunch, etc. All of those options are valid and common. The idea behind the rehearsal dinner is to feed the people in your wedding party (often just after the wedding rehearsal/walk-through) as well as any out-of-town guests, which are most likely extended family. 

In some cases, the rehearsal and the dinner or meal have to be scheduled separately. While it’s preferable to do them together, don’t feel forced into anything. Each couple and their family have a unique circumstance. The heart of the tradition is about being together, sharing your hospitality, and a special moment before the wedding. 

 

What Do You Serve at the Event?

When it comes to the rehearsal dinner menu, the world is your oyster! (Come to think of it — an oyster bar sounds amazing.) The beauty of this event is that you have a lot of flexibility to get creative. With a smaller guest list than your wedding, family-style or foodie-chic options are a lot of fun to delight your family and wedding party with. 

If you aren’t sure what type of dinner you’d like to serve, talk to your wedding planner and significant other. Ultimately, this is the choice of the host, but be sure to give any important details to them ahead of time.

Things to consider include — 

  • Budget
  • Dietary Restrictions/Needs
  • Guest List Amount (You need a location that can accommodate everyone.) 
  • Important Details  (This could be determining the even close by or having it at a meaningful location to you as a couple.) 

 

Who Hosts the Rehearsal Dinner?

Traditionally speaking, it’s the groom’s family that hosts the event. Another name for this event is Groom’s Dinner. These are essentially two names for the same event depending on who is responsible for planning and paying. 

The hosts are responsible for putting together the guest list and sending out the invitations. 

 

Who is Invited? 

Essentially, anyone who needs to be at the wedding rehearsal should be invited to the rehearsal dinner.

Rehearsal Dinner Guest List Includes —

  • Bridesmaids / Junior Bridesmaids
  • Maid/Matron of Honor 
  • Groomsmen / Junior Groomsmen
  • Best Man 
  • Honor Attendants
  • Ring bearer and/or Flower Girls (and their parents)
  • Parents of the Bride and Groom
  • Immediate Family
  • Out-of-Town Guests (Optional) 
  • Officiant

Any roles in the wedding beyond these are optional but nice to include. Especially when it comes to roles in multi-cultural weddings, the standard rule is if they are participating in your wedding in some way, it’s proper etiquette to invite them. 

Invitation Etiquette — Give guests a plus-one option.

Invitations should include —

  • The name and location of the venue.
  • The time of the rehearsal practice. 
  • The time of the meal and location where it will be hosted.
  • RSVP contact and deadline information.
  • Menu information whenever possible. 

 

Where Do You Host a Rehearsal Dinner? 

This is completely up to the couple. Whether it’s a country club or a restaurant — or even a family home, the options vary by couple and situation. Many venues have rehearsal dinner options on-site, but if that is not the case for you, find a meaningful spot that is not too far from the rehearsal location.

It’s a good rule of thumb to keep this event more informal than the day itself. This is for multiple reasons. You don’t want to overshadow the big day, but also, you want this to be a warm and inviting environment where people can get to know each other. 

What Happens at the Event?

Because this event is chiefly about the two families coming together and everyone getting to know each other, it’s best to keep things simple and easy to navigate. For you, this may mean having some games to encourage people being able to engage more easily or simply keeping it low-key with a family-style dinner vibe. 

However you choose to plan your event, here is what is traditionally done at the rehearsal dinner—

  • Give everyone an opportunity to meet and greet each other. The hosts, as well as the parents and couple, should initiate introducing people to each other.
  • The host often welcomes people collectively before the meal. 
  • If appropriate, this is also when the officiant or party member blesses the meal.
  • After the meal, gifts are often presented to the wedding party by the couple with a collective sentiment of thanks to the entire group. (In some cases, this includes the parent’s gifts, but many prefer to make that a private moment.)
  • The groom often toasts his new bride at this time. 
  • Toasts and speeches are then given by the Fathers f the bride and groom.
  • Some take this time to allow for general toasts by guests but remember that primary speeches should be saved for the wedding day. 
  • At the closing of the event, this is a good moment for the hosts, couple, or wedding planner to make any announcements and reminders about logistics for the big day. 

As much fun as these evenings can be, remember that this should be wrapping up by 10 p.m. and not getting too raucous. You will need these people refreshed and at their best for the wedding day. 

 

PRO-TIPS YOU NEED TO KNOW TO HAVE THE BEST REHEARSAL DINNER

Now that we’ve answered the initial questions, let’s talk about the pro-tips you need to know to have the best rehearsal dinner — ever. 

  • Don’t forget to hire a photographer for the rehearsal dinner.

(Even if this is just a friend, this is a special and intimate moment in your wedding celebration that is very worth documenting.)

  • Make a schedule.
  • Pick a theme. (This helps when picking the venue.) 
  • Don’t plan an extravagant event because that’s not the point of the dinner and it could overshadow the wedding. 
  • Don’t host it at a location far away from the wedding venue/rehearsal location. 
  • Be sure to give yourself (and your guests) plenty of time to get from the rehearsal location to the dinner — but also be mindful that it isn’t too long in between. 
  • Remember that this event doesn’t need to have a huge budget or lots of moving pieces. Keep it simple.
  • Be sure to help guests by letting them know what to expect from the meal details to the dress code. Don’t make them work to find out, and worse, don’t answer 20 of the same questions via text on your rehearsal day. 
  • Be mindful not to overeat. You don’t want to feel bloated or ill the night before the wedding. (It’s not a must, but just something to keep in mind.)
  • As fun as the party might be — don’t keep your guests out too late. (You want everyone feeling their best and well-rested for the big day.) 
  • Remember the purpose of this event and soak in these moments with the important people in your life. Be sure to let them know how grateful you are for them and how happy you are that they are part of this celebration. 

All this talk of rehearsal dinner has us hungry — how about you? Check out some amazing local spots to host the best rehearsal dinner ever! 

Tuscan Elegance Engagement Session at the Philbrook Museum of Art

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Are we in Tulsa or Tuscany? Either way, this Tuscan elegance engagement session at the Philbrook Museum of Art is filled to the brim with European architecture and lush, grandiose design! Laura Eddy Photography captured Cassie and Addison’s chemistry in lovely light and airy style, perfect for the al fresco feel of these grand gardens. Originally built in the visage of an Italian Renaissance villa on 25 sprawling acres, the Philbrook serves as a Tulsa gem you could see every day and still be in awe of its luxury! Cassie and Addison first met on Bumble, but their modern love story almost didn’t happen because Cassie had already deleted the app after several unsuccessful dates. Luckily enough, she had a girl’s night on Valentine’s Day and her friend encouraged her to re-download the app! After some swiping, she saw Addison and knew she hadn’t seen him on the app before. It was an immediate match and he asked her on their first date the next day, and the rest is history! Now married, the couple recently said their vows in an October ceremony at The Patriot Golf Club in Owasso! With a classically romantic palette of burgundy, blush and gold, we’re sure there are so many gorgeous details we can’t wait to see in their fall wedding – especially their delicious wedding cake from Sweet Devotion Cakery. Yum! Keep scrolling to see this Tuscan elegance engagement session for yourself and read on to hear the bride’s story about how he proposed. Cheers to Cassie and Addison!

Photo // Laura Eddy Photography

From the bride: “Addison proposed on Valentine’s Day, which was so sweet considering that was the day that we matched on Bumble. I knew he would be proposing soon because he had already talked to my father in January, and I was trying my best to figure out which weekend it would be! Everyone around me (my family, Addison, my best friend Bailey) tried to throw me off for Valentine’s weekend. My mom had told me she and my dad were going out of town, Addison acted COMPLETELY normal that whole week and even sent me flowers that day like a regular Valentine’s Day, and my friend Bailey told me about her jam-packed weekend that didn’t include an engagement party for me – so my hopes were very low for the possibility of getting engaged that weekend. We had a nice dinner planned Friday night, and Addison said he wanted to go for a walk at Lake Hefner before dinner. I didn’t know that he had been in touch with a photographer or that he would propose by the lake at sunset but that’s exactly what he did! Afterward, we went to dinner at The Ranch with just the two of us which was so perfect. We loved having the private time to process all that had just happened and enjoy being new fiancees! Addison had one more surprise in store, and he and my mom planned the sweetest engagement party at my parent’s house with both of our families and close friends the next evening. It was all so thoughtful and allowed us to have both private quality time and celebrate with our favorite people. I couldn’t have planned it better myself!”


Plans to tie the knot soon yourself? Check out some of our favorite Oklahoma wedding vendors here to get the planning started! Cheers!

Our Guide to Booking the Right Wedding Officiant for You

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The wedding planning process is full of making decisions but choosing who marries you to your soulmate is one of the biggest. We are here to help you make sure that your big day is in the hands of the right person! Keep reading to learn what you need to know when booking a wedding officiant!

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Photos // Ricki Thompson Media

Early Bird Gets the Worm

In order to ensure that your wedding day is accompanied by the perfect officiant, it’s always good to get a head start on the search. It is important to give yourself enough time to find the perfect person to marry you without feeling rushed. Start looking for an officiant far in advance so you can take your time while interviewing and researching the right people.

Decide on the Type

There are multiple different types of wedding officiants. To have the wedding of your dreams, you need to determine which type of officiant is best for you. One way to make this decision is by taking a look at the type of ceremony you picture. Here are the different types of officiants that you can choose to marry you.

Religious Wedding Officiant

If you are envisioning a religious ceremony to highlight your faith, this is the type of officiant you should look into hiring. A religious wedding officiant can be a rabbi, minister, priest, pastor or another type of spiritual leader to create a wedding that calls attention to your beliefs. The officiant could be a religious leader that you have known for years or someone new that you have found to appreciate.

Professional Wedding Officiant

These are officiants that are licensed and experienced in performing marriage ceremonies. This type of officiant normally has a great deal of experience, so they bring professionalism and poise to your ceremony. Since professionals normally specialize in certain areas like interfaith or secular ceremonies, a couple might consider hiring one if they are not intending on having a religious ceremony.

Civil Wedding Officiant

Couples might choose a civil wedding officiant to keep with a straightforward style wedding. This type of officiant is someone that performs marriage ceremonies in accordance with state laws. A civil officiant can be a judge, mayor, notary or another title that can assist you in getting married within the laws of your state.

Ordained Family Member or Friend

One way to personalize your wedding is by getting married by a family member or one of your close friends. Many people find it comforting to have a close friend or family member standing up at the altar, marrying them. If you are looking for a way to add your own personal touch to the ceremony, this is something to consider and is relatively easy and inexpensive to accomplish.

Do Your Homework

This step requires you and your significant other to do some digging. Once you have decided on a type of officiant, it is always smart to get some additional information where you can. Get referrals from newlywed friends or scroll through the internet about potential officiants. This can help you learn about the executions of their past weddings and also introduce you to their credentials.

Share the Same Values

Once you have your sights set on a few officiants, it is time to pay close attention to if you can truly see them officiating your wedding. There are a few qualities you want to make sure that they have, a crucial one is that you want to make sure they have the same values that you and your fiancé share. This step is not something that you want to overlook. The last thing you want is to hire an officiant that does not have the same views or values as you and your significant other.

Pick the Confident Speaker

A final thing to look for in an officiant is their presence while speaking. You want to select an officiant that you not only respect but one that is comfortable speaking in front of groups of people. Before committing to an officiant, make sure they are confident speakers, so the ceremony is clear and orderly. By choosing a confident speaker, the ceremony will flow easily and lack any awkward silences that could come with stage fright or inexperience, making it a happy moment to look back on.


You’ve picked your officiant, and now it’s time to start working on the ceremony! Think about what you want included – unity ceremony, songs, readings, ect. – then get to work on those vows! Here’s our guide to writing your own.

Focused Fête | Find Your Focus and Prioritize Your Party

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Every couple planning a wedding has different priorities or elements they focus on when they envision their big day. Some want a flawless design with cohesive elements at every turn. Others fancy a palpable WOW factor with statement-making attire and a look that pops. Or maybe you’re the couple who just wants the day to go smoothly and make each guest feel special. There’s no right or wrong way to go about it, but prioritizing your desires for your big day is important! Keeping your essentials top of mind can help you figure out how to budget wisely and where the bulk of your funds should go. Not sure where your priorities might lie? Read on and discover what means most to you and how to prioritize those precious dollars to bring your dream vision to life.

Focus: The Look

If getting glammed up like never before is what excites you most, you’ll want to invest in a team of vendors at the top of their styling game. From the dress to the jewelry and of course, hair and makeup, you’ll look and feel your very best, basking in bridal beauty as you say “I do” to your sweetheart. Think of this team as your personal glam squad!

Hair & Makeup

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Hair + Makeup: Tease to Please

You’ll want to hire some of the very best in the biz that are true pros at creating incredible hair and makeup looks to help you feel like the very best version of yourself. With all eyes on you and your partner, an incredible beauty team can help you feel ultra-confident. You go, smoke show!

Photo: Emily Nicole Photography // Also pictured: JJ Kelly, Jay’s Jewelry, Oak Tree Country Club 

 

Attire

Bridal Gown: Valentine Bridal

Wow your guests as you walk down the aisle in a dress that looks like it was made for you – or in the case of Valentine Bridal, really is made for you! Hire professional bridal stylists that want to help you have FUN picking out the dress of your dreams because you’ll certainly have fun wearing it!

Photo: Wendy Bobarikin Photography // Also pictured: Black Barn at Spain Ranch, Anthousai, Party Pro Rents

 

Jewelry

Fine Jewelry: Naifeh Fine Jewelry

Glam up your look with truly unique jewels and designs you won’t see anywhere else! Create a stunning engagement ring, sparkling wedding bands, and fine jewelry to complete your look.

 

Focus: The Design

If your wedding day vision includes a space where every last detail is designed to the nines and executed flawlessly, the following three visual elements should be your focus. Magnificent florals, a jaw-dropping cake and an invitation suite that set the tone for an incredible, thoughtfully planned day: that’s what’s in store when you invest in these details.

Floral + Design

Floral: Trochta’s

Floral experts want you to feel the power of the flowers deep in your soul. Florists take the utmost pride in creating stunning designs that can transform any space. From bouquets to centerpieces, arches, altars, floral walls and everything in between, you won’t regret having floral magic as part of your big day.

Photo: The Big and Bright

 

Cake

 


Cake: Allie’s Baking Boutique

Because dessert shouldn’t be an afterthought, having a custom, one-of-a-kind wedding cake at your reception can be quite the experience! Let your cake be a beautifully designed, tasteful (and tasty) treat for all.

Photo: Emily Nicole Photography // JJ Kelly, Jay’s Jewelry, Oak Tree Country ClubTease to Please

 

Invitations

Invitations: Laurel & Marie

Your stationery should be as unique as you and your partner. From the moment your guests open their custom-designed invitation suite, complete with hand-drawn artistic elements, until long past their arrival, these paper details will set the tone of your entire wedding.

Photo: Ely Fair Photography

 

Focus: Lasting Memories

Maybe you’re not sure exactly what your day will look like, but you know that however it turns out, you want every last moment to be cherished forever. After all, the day goes by in such a flash. It’s so important to be able to look back and feel the emotions of the day with beautifully captured memories to help. A focus on photography will ensure your memories live on!

Photographer

In your photographer’s eyes, your wedding day is just the beginning. It’s your marriage that leaves the legacy, so let them capture day one of that legacy in the most timeless and beautiful way possible. You’ll fall in love with the images captured and want to frame them all over your home!

Photo: Chelsea Littleton Photography // Also pictured: The Pines at Moser Farms

 

Signage

Signage: Katie’s Custom Decor

Bring your guests in on the action and set off the various parts of your wedding beautifully with eye-catching signage that invites your friends and family to take part to the fullest!

Photo: Blue Elephant Photography

 

Photo Lounge

Photo Booth:  Memory Lane Photobooth

Add infectious energy with tangible mementos to boot – with a photo lounge at your reception! Having super fun backdrops, props and printable photos that your guests can take home, everyone will remember the fun they had celebrating as you said “I do!” Want to make things even more memorable? How about an Airstream bus that doubles as your photobooth? So fun!

Photo: Loganna Photography

 

Focus: The Plan

Perhaps it’s simply enjoying the moment that’s most important to you. Taking it all in, not worrying about a thing and just focusing on the love of your life and the love that surrounds you both. If that sounds like your dream day, we’ve got the team for you!

Planner

Wedding Planner: Hilary Tailored Events

With a professional planner to help streamline things, you can ensure your stress stays at a minimum throughout the entire preparation process as well as on your wedding day. Let them take care of the logistics, so you can focus on the fun. You’ll breathe a sigh of relief when you can relax and enjoy your wedding day, leaving the details to the pros!

Photo: Mary Keen Photography // The Medieval Garden, Mood Party Rentals

Entertainment

Entertainment: OKC Entertainment

Keep the good times rolling with exciting entertainment for your reception. Having experienced emcees, musicians, DJs and lighting pros for your big day, you’ll be the host of one celebration your guests will never forget – and one you’ll enjoy worry-free from start to finish!

Photo: Sheradee Hurst


Explore even more unique Oklahoma wedding vendors here, or get trendy inspo from some of our featured real weddings here! Happy planning!